Wednesday, 15 April 2015

Toward the finishing line...

When i started this blog few years ago, my intention was to document my experiences during this PhD journey.  It is important because PhD is such a big thing, at least to me. But i barely have time to update this blog. 24 hours is never enough, i wish human can live without having to sleep. Then 24 hrs can be fully utilised.

Now, im in my 7th semester and insyallah this will be my final semester..well, its all depend on me & my capability to say 'the end'.  I can feel the heat this very critical moment, my life is also tested at every corner. At this very moment, i just not sure if having a PhD is a dream to me anymore. I am mentally, emotionally & physically drained because of what life throws at me. Is this the price we have to pay for a dream we want to achieve?

Quitting may not be an answer for my PhD because it is too late to quit. I must finish it no matter what, even when my heart is not with it. At least i achieve something in my life even though life itself is such a disappointment.

I really need to strengthen my faith and iman.  I am totally the maximum. Maybe im not as strong as i thought i am....

Wednesday, 14 January 2015

The Urban Cafe - Rusty Bean & Batter

Yesterday, we decided to try this new Café in town, called Rusty Bean & Batter.  We had no idea what they served but we wanted to have it a try. So, whats the verdict? First, let me show you the pictures of the place that I took, then I'l tell you the verdict
This is the place...Rusty Bean & Batter

Located at ST3, Kuching, this café is built on the overhead bridge that connecting ST3 & The Spring shopping complex..two words to describe ~ 'unique & creative'.  Here are the photos of the interior...

Parts of the furnitures are made from metal/iron pipes

This is insanely creative...the couch cover is made from a patchwork of jeans.  As a designer myself, I find this is impressive.


The walk way that connecting ST3 and The Spring

Now, lets go to the food part..the best part lah.. :)

 "Rusty Fairy"

This drink is called Rusty Fairy.  So, what is it actually? Well, it is just coffee + milk + cotton candy (to substitute the sugar).  So, dip the cotton candy in the hot milk and add coffee..and you will get -> coffee! yeah...just coffee, but served in a creative & fun way.

Now, this one is Pancake Deluxe = layers of pancakes + caramelized bananas + fresh cream

I forgot the name of this sandwich..heeehhh... but it stated it "Raphael"...something..something
And this one is... "Hi Tension"...ok ok I know im a bit stressed out & tensed, that's why I need this drink..
Hi Tension =  avocado juice

So, my verdict?? Love it...I simply love this place.  The food is alright, perfect for someone who is looking for a light lunch or tea.  What I love the most is the concept..very urban, relaxing, not so perfect deco..but imperfection is what makes it unique.  Am I going to return to this place? Of course laaaa...definitely.  And Im promoting this place too because it deserved to be promoted.  I want more places like this to exist in Kuching and I hope they will keep a good service & improve themselves continuously.  
The satisfied customer ::

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Tel : 01963338866

Monday, 12 January 2015

The Yellow Weekender ~ Chic Weekend Style

I love colors and I'm very fortunate to live in Malaysia where everyday is summer..there is no restrictions on what color to wear for different season. So, this weekend, 11 January 2015, I chose to wear something easy going but still looking chic & catchy.

A loose mustard color blouse + ankle length ripped jeans + mustard color Longchamp weekend handbag.

A simple look like this is good enough especially during a wet rainy weekend. I was actually pairing the handbag with a yellow heels but decided to change it to flats when the rain started to fall... i love my Tropical Island of Borneo :)

My earlier look....when the sun was shinning bright ��

Well...not much effort to appear 'astonishing' on wet Sunday isn't it? See you next weekend.. xoxo

Tuesday, 11 November 2014

The Tea House

No..nooooo...The Tea House is not located in Kuching...(it only takes us a few hours flight) its in the country town of Lincoln, Christchurch, New Zealand. Since i had a chance to dine in this famous restaurant, im sharing some info & photos with you guys (in case you plan to visit Lincoln).

The Tea House, a beautifully restored 1890’s villa is nothing extraordinaire.  It is just a simple small place. However, the place gives us a pleasant surrounding with the china, tea pots etc that are perfectly lovely. The food are  well presented and delicious, providing us with elegant dining experience.

This is the part i love the most.  Look at those cake tiers...lovely. Im a big fan of cake tiers :)

Well..for traveller like us, sitting in a warm cosy place is great after a long tiring day.  The Tea House is simply perfect even though we cant expect a royalty treatment. I only have 1 regret -> i cant have the beef steak! pun kira ok lah

Thursday, 6 November 2014

Western Food Galore at Fork & Knife

I am no food expert, neither a good cook..i just love to eat (and who is not?? Slap..slap ✋✋). It is rather difficult to find a good restaurant that served a good satisfying food in my city, the Cat City ~ Kuching.  Recently, i found this restaurant, FORK & KNIFE, located at Jalan Song which served western food.  The food is great..the ambience is nice, clean & calm..the staff...hmmm..ok ok lah, can be improved..and on top of all, it is halal and the owner is a, the Muslims can eat tanpa was was.

I went there a couple of nights ago..and these are some pictures i like to share..for your reference...

The best Pavlova in far lah...

My favourite Aglio Olio...i am satisfied.....i give 5/5 stars

Owh myyyy..this burger is so huge..

Im not a pizza lover but i love, as long as it has lots and lots of cheese, im good

Yeaaaa....maybe we were haloba (sangatttttt....) we cant finish the food and have to tapau them all..hahaha...

So, the verdict..i give 9/10...I highly recommend this place...jommn la try...

Monday, 27 October 2014

Vintage Tea Party - Malaysian Style

The idea of dressing for an English high tea is very exhilarating.  I can imagine the flowers in a sunny breezy spring garden..hermmmm...*smile*

Looking back to the history of tea party, it was first introduced in England by Duchess of Bedford, Anna in the year 1940.  The duchess asked that a tray of tea, bread, cake and butter be brought to her room every late afternoon since the dinner is expected later at evening time.  Her frequent request became a routine and she began welcoming friends to join her.  This quickly developed into a fashionable social event and spread to all parts of England.  Well-to-do society women had wardrobes including long gowns, gloves and hats specially for the event.  The table has proper and prettiest settings with the best china and linens that serves delicious cookies and cakes.

When we had the chance to host a tea party for a friend's birthday, everyone was overwhelmed with excitement..yesss...its time to dress up!!

My idea for this tea party is rather simple..i like to wear a dress that is basic, chic, elegant and vintage..but most must turn heads..cehhhhh...come, let me take you to our vintage English high tea party..our style..Malaysian style

Yours truly..ehemmm...that was what i settled for that day..a simple lace mid length dress..accessorized it with pearls..
with a hat (a must) and a  wrist corsage.. *Kate Middleton-ish* :p 

Pretty ladies in pastels

Trying to bring the 'outside in' for the decoration...

The line up...

Alright...that's how we held our Malaysian English tea may not be English enough..but it was great and we had fun..girls just want to have fun hunnnnn...lalala

Kate Middleton wannabe.. *wink wink*

Wednesday, 10 September 2014

Stop Being Judgemental…Start Being Compassionate

Judgemental is the act of disapproving, tending to judge people too quickly and critically.  For example, we see someone and based on their looks and actions, we pass a judgement on them. 
“Wow..she gained weight…look at her tummy”… “I know why the husband left her”… “is that the dress she wore last week?”…”owh, she is having an affair..I must call someone and tell”.  Have you been in a conversation where you were dishing out the criticisms, assumptions and judgements?  Don’t lie..we all did at some point.  It is so easy to say ‘I am not a judgmental person’.  Owh hell, we all do and we are all judgmental.  YOU, HE, SHE, THEM..and even ME.  I certainly am..many times I passed a judgement on someone.  Why?? Because it is a human nature.  We always believe that we are better than others.  Since being judgemental is a human nature, we can only able to control the degree of our ‘judgmentalness’ (Judgmentalness is a conclusion that something does not exhibit characteristics which we believe that it should exhibit and comparing the thing to our own personal values). 
These are the things I always reminding myself in order to avoid passing judgement:
  1. Don’t be so quick to judge.  We never knew when we might just find ourselves walking in that person’s shoes.  Life is full of karma.
  2. Every single person in this world has their own story…has their own little lie... has their own dark secret.  We are no exception…so, is our story good enough that license us to judge someone else’s? Tepuk dada tanya selera..afterall, only us know our own secret..our own sins
  3. Try to understand rather than criticizing.  Imagine we are living their lives..imagine we are walking their path..imagine we are in their shoes
  4. Accept the person for who he/she is.  Especially if that person is your family or your friend.  Accept them as the unique person he/she is, not what he/she does that has no immediate effect on us.  Why bother to judge people when their action does not has a single consequences to our life? 
  5. Don’t ever think that we are so right and other people are so wrong.  What really matter is not our outer looks but what is in our heart.  Sounding and appearing pious  doesn’t permit us to become censorious, self-righteous person
Most judgements of others that we made are ego strategies to avoid our own uncomfortable feeling.  Sometimes we also display the same behaviour but we are not aware of it.  "Embracing our life and use others as a mirror to ourselves".  Some people may not blessed with a good life as what we are enjoying.  So, be more compassionate.   
I have been the victim of gossips & criticisms and I have certainly been the victim of judgments as well.  Some days, I can take it calmly but there are days when I was hit by the toughest, I failed to handle it well and I broke down.  Being the recipient of all these, I knew karma come in full circle…to teach me lesson and left me with experience.  Living with life full of people who love to scrutinize other people's life, I am no longer wanted to allow this cycle to continue.  When someone pass a gossip to me, I try my hardest not to convey the story to the person being gossiped..I don't want to have anything to do with the story and I feel pity when I think about 'I can be the subject of the gossip as well'..I opt to engage with people that are uplifting, inspiring and has full of positive energetic imprint to improve themselves.  "Surround yourself with only positive people who are going to lift you higher" ~ Oprah.
But then again, lesson and experience made us tough.  I'm kinda tired of trying to live up to everyone's expectation.  People gonna talk..haters gonna This is our life, we should be the one who is in charge here.  We are in charge of how we feel and what we want to do.  At the end of the day, who we are is totally and completely up to ourselves.  Not anyone else...
My last words to all of you & to myself…have some honour and respect for others.  People may appear to have sin…look at ourselves decorously… Are we ‘sin-free’??