I know this topic will create a stir.. (owhhh..what an introduction..)
Ya, it will create a stir because im touching on an issue that is very sensitive..private (maybe) and its related to religion..but i have this "mual" in my stomach and i need to vomit it out..ok, im not qualified to be 'calon-calon wanita muslimah'..first, im not wearing the hijab as what other muslim women do..i have my own reason why..i dont have to mention it here as that will not just creating a stir but a tsunami..i just name 1 reason, rather a principle to me ~ I believe in doing thing with ikhlas & tulus..not to fit in or 'to show'..and i believe in 'hati yang bersih'..everything comes from the heart not from how we look
I was called tO write on this topic after i saw a wedding pictures of someone that i know. she just got married and happy..lalalalala..
Her everday look is with hijab..covering herself top to toe..muslimah ~ calon-calon nya ialah...jeng jeng jeng..yes..she can be the calon..the family is also known as the 'mereka yang alim alim belaka'..what become an issue here is she posted her pre-weddng pictures in Facebook & her blog..well, everyone does that..its a happy day right..BUT..her pre-wedding
pictures were taken during a holiday of her & her fiance (belum kawin yer..)..shocked &
surprised..in one of her album, she is wearing a tiub dress that exposing the upper part of her body..no hijab (of course lah..) and gambar touching touching with her not-yet-husband
My question is, is she allowed to do that because it is her wedding day? Is she allowed to touch a man (touch is a more gentle word to describe the act of hugging, cuddlng dan yang sewaktu dengan nya) who is her husband to be? Is it ok for a woman who wear hijab to take it off..wear revealing dress because she is getting married? I mean, for orang yang tidak alim
like me, i still have that subconcious mind to think taht such acts are not right..well..perhaps i still can consider that as ok if they keep it as 'for our eyes only'..but not for the whole universe to observe
I may be a penyibuk..what do i know..why do i care..me myself is not wearing hijab..im not perfect myself..jangan jaga tepi kain orang..well, kalau kain disimpan elok, saya tak jaga..kalau kasi saya tengok..saya akan tengok, evaluate & analyse..i would rather be myself..look like who i am now..tapi tidak sekali kali memperlekehkan diri sendiri & agama hanya atas sebab sebuah album perkahwinan..
As for me, when the time comes for me to wear hijab..i want to be ready..mentally, spiritually & physically..with ketetapan iman serta diperlihara tingkah laku agar tidak menjadi momokan orang..
Forgive me for being vocal..but..i can only describe it in one sentence ~ "what a shame"